Understanding the Narcissist

Keeping a healthy relationship with a narcissist is extremely challenging, whether that person is a friend, family member or colleague.

A classic narcissist will show self-centeredness, a constant need for admiration, and a lack of empath — which leaves nothing left for your cup. 

Dr. Ramani adds that a narcissist “is very ego-centric, unempathetic manipulative, entitled, grandiose [with a] rules don’t apply [attitude] and incapable of having close. growth oriented mutual relationships.” 

Does this type of person sound like someone you know in your life?  Interestingly, there are more male narcissists than women, and the personality trait usually begins in early adulthood or the teenage years. 

Mindfulness Counseling of NY therapist Camilla Soriano, LP-MHC says, “I think an essential strategy is awareness of certain behaviors that accompany narcissism such as gaslighting, name calling, belittling, love bombing, and intermittent reinforcement (alternating between being loving and abusive, which strengthens attachment).”

Avoid and Create Boundaries 

It is OK to avoid a narcissist. It is also OK and even healthy to ignore their demands for attention, “ according to Mindfulness Counseling of NY therapist Audrey Bowman, LMSW.

Avoid Personalizing Their Behavior

Understand that a narcissist’s actions are often driven by their own insecurities and self-centered nature, rather than a reflection of your worth. Avoid internalizing their criticisms or taking responsibility for their actions.

Practice Empathy Without Enabling

While it’s essential to understand the roots of a narcissist’s behavior, it’s equally crucial not to enable harmful actions. Balancing empathy with the ability to maintain healthy boundaries is key to managing relationships with narcissistic individuals.

Seek Professional Support

Consider seeking therapy for yourself to navigate the emotional toll of dealing with a narcissist. A mental health professional can provide guidance, coping strategies, and a safe space to discuss your experiences.

Practice Self-Care

Focus on your own well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family who understand the challenges of dealing with a narcissist.

Remember, dealing with narcissists requires a combination of self-care, assertiveness, and understanding. While you may not change the narcissist, you can control how you respond to their behavior, fostering a healthier environment for yourself and those around you.